Learn Emotional Self-Regulation In Four Steps

The ability to regulate your emotions in a way that is socially accepted and appropriate will always give you the upper hand in complex situations, both in business and in your personal life. Master this ability, and you are better able to choose the appropriate actions and move things towards a good outcome. Even better, you avoid higher emotions and conflict, and people around you will also feel good. Rep. Ted Yoyo was not able to regulate his emotions both on the stairs of Congress and the days after. Although mastery is dependent on your genes and upbringing, it is possible to train yourself to better emotional self-regulation.

We all feel vulnerable. And when we feel attacked, misunderstood, opposed, rejected, humiliated, or ridiculed, we respond with negative emotions. You may question your own worth or are uncertain about the image of yourself: Am I good enough? Do people see me as the person I want to be seen as? Is what I do, or wear, or say, the right thing to do, wear, or say?

Or you may be confident in the image of yourself, but quick to react if you believe you are misunderstood and the image you want others to have of you is threatened. If you hurt somebody, intentionally or not, and you are met with criticism that portrays you as somebody different than the image you have of yourself, your emotional response may make it…